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Marriage-A Passage to Canada |
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By Dr. Neelam Verma
To protect her family name, Rimpy chose silence. He took advantage and she laid down her life. As her sister fights back, Immigration authorities still fail to deport spouses who abuse their partners and the system meant to unite families. A report by Dr. Neelam Verma When Ramandeep Kaur Dhillon’s parents took her to India to get her married in 2001, they did not realize that they were sending her to the gallows. That from then onwards, life would not only be unhappy and miserable, but she would be physically, sexually and emotionally abused leading to her untimely demise as a result of years of beatings she would receive at the hands of her new husband. It was an arranged marriage for Ramandeep, lovingly called Rimpy by her family, in the Punjab province of India in the January of 2001 and at that time; no one realized that for the groom, it was merely a marriage of convenience. For him, he had won a million dollar lottery-he was not only getting cash, gold jewellery, household items etc from the bride’s family, but also was getting a free passage to Canada and a chance of becoming a permanent citizen. The bride’s family spent as much as Rs 14 lakh or about CDN$ 40,000 approximately on the marriage to please the groom and his family. But that was not to be. The very next day of marriage, Ramandeep’s in-laws took all the dowry articles, cash and jewellery to their village while Rimpy was left to deal with an indifferent, cruel husband who started harassing her for more dowry. She was taunted and humiliated for belonging to an inferior family and for bringing less in dowry than expected. Then started the physical abuse-she was regularly kicked, punched and dragged by the hair either by her husband or her in-laws and she tolerated everything to save her marriage. Like any Indian married woman, she wanted her marriage to work and did not complain either to her sister or her family. Once in Canada, she sponsored her husband who came willingly but the physical abuse did not stop. After getting the Permanent Resident card, he went back to India saying that he was not coming back ever to Canada. Once again in an attempt to pacify matters, Rimpy followed him to India but soon realized that she was expecting a baby and her in-laws wanted her to abort the child. She fled to Canada and gave birth to a baby girl, which again angered her husband and in-laws who had warned her “no girl can be born in the family.”
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Isn’t it a wonder that sixty years after his death, this frail bespectacled old man remains a living legend? His name and his story attract thousands and his autobiography The Story of My Experiments with Truth still sells an incredible 200,000 copies or more a year. The first edition of Gandhi's autobiography was rolled out in 1927 in Gujarati. It is now available in Assamese, Bengali, English, Hindi, Oriya, Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam, Kannada, Urdu and Punjabi. Indian language versions of the 452-page work can be bought for just one Canadian dollar while a hard bound copy would cost less than three dollars in India. On his 60th death anniversary on January 30th, people still remember that man who lived and died for his non-violent means to meeting the ends, they still remember the man who selflessly struggled for the down trodden and became a Mahatma-a great soul from a common barrister called Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi. A man who helped change India’s history. His unfettered journey culminating in India’s independence was his labour of unconditional love for his country, especially his countrymen whom he saw being subjugated to humiliation in their own country by outsiders. Love for this man and his ideology did not evaporate with his death. In fact, the younger generation today is being more influenced by Gandhi’s principles than the older generation says Anil Dutta, Director of National Gandhi Museum in New Delhi. "The truth is that we hesitate in utilising Bapu's ideologies practically, but the youth do not.”
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Time to stop playing politics and fix the justice system |
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Gary Mauser It’s time to crack down on violent criminals and sex offenders. Public safety demands that our dysfunctional justice system be fixed. Canadians are entirely too lenient with criminal offenders. Our lax attitudes towards protecting the public have led many to think the law is just a sham. But, who to blame? What should we do? Recent articles in the local papers highlight the problems. The bulk of violent crime is committed by repeat offenders who are out on bail, probation or statutory release. Almost half of sexual offenders are re-arrested within three years of being released. That’s why we have a sex offender registry. A recent article in The Province shows how the sex offender registry failed to protect Canadians. This case of illustrates why Canada's sex offender registry has been called everything from "useless" to "a sham." Last summer, Steven James Petiquan, a convicted sex offender from Abbotsford decided to take a trip to Calgary. Even though he is a sex offender, he was not required to tell authorities about it. While on holiday, Petiquan allegedly threatened a woman’s life in Calgary and sexually assaulted her before fleeing. Calgary police immediately initiated a city-wide manhunt for their suspect, while investigators called the National Sex Offender Registry to get Petiquan's last known address. But the address Registry officials in B.C. had for him was wrong. Petiquan had either provided the sex offender registry with a false address or failed to tell them that he had moved. The prime suspect in a sex crime was on the loose and the people who were supposedly in charge of keeping track of him had no idea where he was. The national sex offender registry was created in December 2004. It was touted as a valuable tool to help police solve sex crimes by identifying possible suspects known to live near the site of an offence. While the theory of giving police quick access to a database of sex offenders was sound, the end result has been far from useful. The RCMP, responsible for maintaining the registry, struggle to keep track of offenders in the database. Currently, 152 sex offenders in B.C. -- nearly 10 per cent of those ordered onto the registry -- have failed to check in with police. This figure alone should explain why the registry is in desperate need of an overhaul. Critics say the registry is handcuffed by the Ottawa bureaucracy’s fixation with the privacy rights of offenders. When a convicted sex offender is ordered on to the registry, he must report to the nearest police detachment in his area and provide basic facts and a photo is taken. All this information is entered in the central registry office in each province. |
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Girl Violence: A cause for concern |
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By Dr. Neelam Verma
Over the years, aggression among teenaged girls have increased. Is the law which is too lax or is it that the youth today know that they can get away with a mere slap on the wrist? The year 2008 began with the killing of one teenager by another. 14-year old Stefanie Rengel of Toronto was killed on New Year’s Day by a 17-year old boy at the instance of his 15-year old girlfriend. Till sometime back, girl violence against girls raised eyebrows in Canada. Not anymore. Until recently, since females were not considered as aggressive as their male counterparts, they were mostly excluded from any studies of aggression. However, lately, more and more adolescent girls are being charged with violent crimes than before which certainly is a cause for concern for many parents of teenaged children. Not going too far back, Karla Homolka a woman herself presented her teenaged sister and another girl as a gift to be abused by her husband.14-year Reena Virk was killed by yet another teenager Kelly Ellard who was later convicted. Canadian sociologists have described the case as a watershed moment for a "moral panic" over girl violence by the public in the late 1990s. A 14-year-old girl was savagely beaten by two fellow female students at a school in Sudbury, Ont. About 30 bystanders did nothing; some cheered. More recently, a 12 year old girl, in Toronto instigated her boy friend to kill her family comprising of her parents and 8-year old brother. The case is still in court but the apathy of the little girl towards the sufferings of her parents and sibling, with her watching over her boyfriend’s deeds, is alarming. The cases go on. Whether it is girl violence or youth violence, it cannot be denied that violence among the young is on the increase. A few years ago, violence would be limited to some fist fights in the school yard leading to maybe a black eye or two. But today, youth- whether male or female, do not hesitate to even use weapons to get back to their opponents and killing is like a game to many. Says Sandra Martins-Toner, Executive Director Families Against Crime & Trauma, who lost her teenaged son to youth violence, “Teen violence is more intense today, escalates far faster and involves groups, girls and weapons more than ever before. It makes you think at times as if they have neither remorse nor feelings for their victims. The way they kill people is like a video game where pawns are shot and the player wins only to start another game. The teenagers don’t seem to understand the severity of the crime they commit.”
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Yet another daughter is sacrificed at the altar of religion and conservatism. Yet another life is snuffed out by the very person who gave her one. And yet another woman went to her grave just because she belonged to one particular religion and rebelled against tradition and fundamentalism. Last month, 16-year-old Agsa Parvez was killed by her father cabdriver Muhammad Parvez in a Toronto suburb, just because she refused to follow the dictate of Islam which guides women to cover their heads when they leave their home. 17-year old Amandeep Atwal was killed some time back as her father did not like her boyfriend, who was not a Sikh and therefore, not acceptable to him and his community. He preferred to kill her than allow her to get her way. 20-year old Jaswinder’s father of Maple Ridge got her killed as she refused to allow him to rule his life. These are just recent examples but round the world, no one knows how many more women or young girls are killed by their own blood and they will continue to do so unless women are allowed to live as human beings. Statistics Canada says that 3 to 4 women per week are murdered by a male family member. Some call such cases domestic violence, others honour killings. None of these cases are complex enough and none require a motive. In some places, the accused may spend a few years in jail while in remote rural areas, the accused is allowed to let go as it is considered their right to do what they want with their property as women are considered mere possessions.
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Booming India deters future immigrants Every time I go to India, I come back impressed at the developments taking place in the world’s largest democracy. Economists predict that India will overtake Britain and have the world’s fifth largest economy within a decade. Read More
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